Last Saturday I was at a friend’s house when two guys from downstairs came up to visit. One mentioned going to the dance club, I had just been the week before (see post below for more details). He said there was a girl there that “was on some stupid ‘I just wanna dance trip’ that night” and she was rejecting all the men that went and tried to dance with her. He called her a “cunt” because of it. Yes, I just said it. A c-u-n-t. I have never in my life actually heard anyone ever call a woman that. I don’t hang with “those people” apparently.
I regret not having the energy or desire to call him out on his shit but I was so shocked by the sheer audacity of this asshole, in a room of four women, to call another woman that. And yet when he said that, all of us women remained silent. Our silence implied it was okay that he just said that. We were bystanders. However, I would hope that we all are not okay with the derogatory use of that word. Of course, I think it is funny that the worst thing he could call her was something in reference to female anatomy. That’s shocking. What will he come up with next? Vagina? Wow! Good job thinking of something creative. Obviously, part of me still wants to go yell at him. But that would not be productive.
So…Why shouldn’t a woman have the ability to go out and dance without being hit on and danced with by many different men. It might be shocking news for this dude but I know I don’t go out to dance so some creepy guy can start grinding up on me or my friends. I go out to dance and have fun. If you want to dance with me you can ask. You can talk to me when I am not dancing. You could buy me a drink. I will turn you down if I want. I will push you away if you act like a creeper. And I will dance when I want to dance. Don’t treat me like a sexual object and I won’t treat you like one.
Rejection hurts but you don’t need to go around calling women names to boost your depressed ego. Please grow up.
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